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Some degree of self hate is actually a good thing. It prevents me from acting like a total fool in the street with the rest of the turds during pride month
I don't begrudge anyone having a party." You don't habe to go to one, I never have. But it's important to have one, because we've already been killed for what we are.
"I do however begrudge people who mistake their sexuality for some massively important signifier that not only demands that other people respect them, but also pay them some special dues." I don't think that sexuality is an important signifier on person's life, but this harmless part of who gay people are have been reason enough for us to be killed, frowned upon, belittled, called names, imprisoned, deprived from basic rights etc. It's not about a special due.
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I am not saying there isn't gays who experience homophobia in the western world. All I am saying is that it is not the norm anymore." Show more of your life for homophobes to see, and see how much acceptance they show you in the comment session.
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Many gays are using the term homophobia to play a victim and to shut up people they disagree with." I think that could be true, as life isn't always black or white.